A Matter of Death and Life

A Matter of Death and Life

A year-long journey by the renowned psychiatrist and his writer wife after her terminal diagnosis, as they reflect on how to love and live without regret.

Internationally acclaimed psychiatrist and author Irvin Yalom devoted his career to counseling those suffering from anxiety and grief. But never had he faced the need to counsel himself until his wife, esteemed feminist author Marilyn Yalom, was diagnosed with cancer. In A Matter of Death and Life, Marilyn and Irv share how they took on profound new struggles: Marilyn to die a good death, Irv to live on without her.

In alternating accounts of their last months together and Irv's first months alone, they offer us a rare window into facing mortality and coping with the loss of one's beloved. The Yaloms had numerous blessings-a loving family, a Palo Alto home under a magnificent valley oak, a large circle of friends, avid readers around the world, and a long, fulfilling marriage-but they faced death as we all do. With the wisdom of those who have thought deeply, and the familiar warmth of teenage sweethearts who've grown up together, they investigate universal questions of intimacy, love, and grief.

Informed by two lifetimes of experience, A Matter of Death and Life is an openhearted offering to anyone seeking support, solace, and a meaningful life.

Title:A Matter of Death and Life
ISBN:9781503613768
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    A Matter of Death and Life Reviews

  • Scribe Publications

    This beautiful, poignant, and uplifting memoir is a love story, a tale of two incredibly accomplished lives that were lived almost as one, the sum turning out to be so much greater than its parts. It ...

  • Liv Cunningham

    A Matter of Death and Life His latest memoir ‘A Matter of Death and Life – Love Loss and What Matters in the End’ co-written with his wife of 65 years Marilyn has been much anticipated by me. It...

  • Enchanted Prose

    Life-affirming, love at first sight (Palo Alto, California; April 2019 – March 2020): Do you believe in love at first sight? Enduring love until death do us part? “Few regrets” in life? If you d...

  • Luka Rukli?

    This book is not an easy read.I'm not referring to the language or the style or the vocabulary. This book is hard to digest because of the sheer amount of emotion contained inside. It deals with death...

  • Julie

    I continue to read Irvin Yalom's books, though I feel unsettled by his mix of wisdom and entitlement. It's a beautiful concept for a couple to write together about this journey, but this is not a typi...

  • Andra Nicula

    I received a book written by Marilyn Yalom two or three years ago. No, it could be not just a coincidence of names. So I did some research on her at the time. Yes, she was the wife of Irvin D.Yalom, o...

  • Mihaela

    When I heard about this book being written and the very difficult topics it covers(assisted suicide of the terminally ill, the end of a more than 70 years relationship and the grief afterwards) I thou...

  • Bianca Mogos

    I have recently lost my grandmother, who was like a mother to me and such a presence in my life. Having lost her so suddenly, made the shock and grief so much bigger.I went into this book after listen...

  • Susan Valentine

    It is Marilyn”s idea to write this book, apparently insisting on it, and yet you can see how this becomes a lifeline for Irvin as he faces this tremendous loss. While the book is about death and fac...

  • Rachel DiCerbo

    Moving, emotional portrait of aging couple facing death, told from perspective of husband and wife.Both having been well accomplished scholars and lived their lives to the fullest, Marilyn has no regr...