Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.

Wired for Love is a complete insider’s guide to understanding your partner’s brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings on how and why love lasts drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this book presents ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship.

Strengthen your relationship by:


Creating and maintaining a safe “couple bubble” Using morning and evening rituals to stay connected Learning to fight so that nobody loses Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure. The no-fault view of conflict in this book encourages readers to move past a "warring brain" mentality and toward a more cooperative "loving brain" understanding of the relationship. This book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.

While there’s no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you can discover how you and your partner are wired differently, you can overcome your differences to create a lasting intimate connection.

Title:Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship
Edition Language:English
ISBN:9781608820580
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  • lov2laf

    I think this is possibly the best relationship book I've read. It's not esoteric, not rah-rah, not religious, not condemning and not bullshit.Stan Tatkin espouses the notion that the "Couple Bubble" i...

  • Lisa Butterworth

    I think if I didn't work with so many abused women I would love this book. it's a great book for couples who don't have elements of control or abuse in their relationship. so many good ideas that I wa...

  • Andrew Franklin

    How I wish I had a resource like this years ago when I was struggling with my marriage. I've read a number of relationship tune-up books throughout the years, and each helped somewhat. It was very enc...

  • Neeuqdrazil

    There was some very interesting stuff in here, but it focused on the couple to the exclusion of all else - really pushed the 'your partner should fulfill all of your needs' model of relationships. But...

  • Julene

    Loved this book. Real good information about attachement and how it works in a relationship. Clear and good examples and metaphors to understand and translate useful information. I just recommended it...

  • Brandon Smith

    Wired for Love uses neuroscience, psychology, attachment theory, and anecdotes to demonstrate that any couple can be happy and find fulfillment in one another if they take the right steps, allow thems...

  • Kirsten

    I read this book because my and my ex's couple's therapist recommended it. I wanted to make sure I don't make the same mistakes again. This book is easy to read and pretty interesting, which is good f...

  • Donna

    This is Nonfiction-Relationship Psychology. I liked this one especially how the author kept this topic reigned in....without stretching into wordy tangents. The focus on making your significant other ...

  • Brian

    Love and connection is essential to our health and wellbeingthroughout our life. Couples, despite their best intention, oftenfail to preserve the bonds of support, safety and connectedness thatwe all ...

  • Jeremy Preacher

    If you've never been to therapy, know nothing about attachment styles, and are in a rocky but not abusive relationship, it's possible that the very basic, oversimplified ideas here will give you a sta...